Generally, your expectations are not right or wrong. However, the way you deal with unmet expectations can have a lot to do with whether you experience oneness in your marriage.
Proverbs 13:12
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.”
Identify your expectations
Proverbs 15:14
The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly.
Discover the source of your expectations: Family, social media, movies, vows
Communicate your expectations beforehand
Ephesians 4:29
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Believe the best of their hearts
Romans 12:10
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
Draw near to God as only he can meet your deepest needs.
Zephaniah 3:17
The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.
Ephesians 2:4-5
But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved.