Restoring an Angry Heart

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Restoring an Angry Heart

Warnings:

Proverbs 27:4

Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?

Proverbs 30:33

For as churning cream produces butter, and as twisting the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife.

Proverbs 19:19

A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again.

James 1:19-20

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 

Can an angry heart, or out of control temper be restored?

Anger is an incredible mountain of energy!

Failed strategies:

1. Clam up  

2. Blow Up / Stress out or freak out
   

Use all that energy to clear it up!

Ephesians 4:20-24

That, however, is not the way of life you learned when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.

Ephesians 4:26-27

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

In your anger do not sin: Temper being out of control is a life strategy.  This strategy is fed by practice and foolish decisions.

Anger is not a choice. How you act in anger is a choice.

The Devil and your flesh have 2 very simple goals:

1. Divide relationships

2. Slavery to sin

Ephesians 4:31-32

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Put off “Clamming” up or “Blowing up” and put on “clearing it up” / Put off “stressing out” or “freaking out” and put on “working it out.”

1. Act don’t react - Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.   (Proverbs 17:28 ESV)

2. Ask why am I so mad?

   1. What was the sin? What will fix it?

   2. What part did I play? 90% -10% rule

   3. What am I afraid of?

   4. Who looked bad?

3. Confession, repentance, faith

4. Work on solving the problem.

   1. Accept the other person.

   2. Accept reality.

   3. Change your habits.

   4. Make tough decisions and act on them.